These are common questions that plague the minds of parents: "Oooh, when can my child start staying at home alone?” or “When will I be able to drop him or her off at a sleepover?"
It’s only right that you ask, but I will let you on a little secret… there is no perfect time. I know that's not what you were expecting, but that's life for you.
You might not have thought of this, but children have always tried to be independent right from birth.
At about 7 months, your child wants to hold the spoon and feed him or herself.
At about 14 months, your child no longer wants to be carried but is excited at the idea of running around.
At about 2 - 3 years old, you ask for something from them, the immediate answer is no.
At about 8 years old, they don’t want you showering for them.
At 10 years old, your child is learning to do his laundry without your help.
At 14, you give them the keys to the house so that they can let themselves in while you are at work.
As you have noticed, independence in children occurs at different stages and parents need to embrace and cherish each moment like it's the last… because it really is.
As your child’s desire for independence grows, what does that mean for you as a parent?
What Does It mean For You To Give Your Child Independence?
Children are free spirits and love to wander around. As they grow older and start to think for themselves, they will naturally want more independence over certain things.
Many parents don’t seem happy about this, but in reality, it’s a plus. You can see the beauty of your child handling tasks independently, no longer calling you for every little issue in the house, cleaning up after their mess… etc.
Every parent's joy is watching their child grow into an independent and well-adjusted member of society.
How Can You Foster This Independence In Your Children?
As we mentioned earlier, children love to wander around and see how far they can push their limits. It’s also key as parents to not allow them to cross lines they shouldn’t.
Here are some things you could put in place while also allowing them to be independent:
Have Cameras At Your Home
You might be having a long day at work, but your child's safety comes first. Placing cameras strategically in your home allows you to still watch them. This gives them room to act as independently as possible.
Take Them On Familiar Sleepovers
You should only allow your child to go to sleepovers in which you are familiar with and have constant communication with the other parent at any point in time.
Put Parental Locks On Their Devices
We are in a technological world, and with things moving at the speed of light, children are getting their hands on devices. It’s your duty as a parent to make sure your child doesn’t go to where they are not supposed to go.
Children are the joy of every parent and seeing them grow is part of the beautiful process which we all enjoy.
At Redeemer’s Learning Centre, a leading daycare in Katy, Texas, we help children develop independence, confidence, and strong values in a safe and nurturing environment.
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